Grief: how to resolve it

Bereavement is distressing – be it the death of a loved one or friend, the loss of a job, or even a much loved pet.

Time is a great healer and in most cases we come to terms with the sadness and move on with our lives.

As we resolve our grief, we naturally pass through stages of denial, anger, apathy before rekindling our motivation and getting on with life. We do this in a host of ways such as talking our feelings through with others, dreaming, writing about our feelings, thinking things through and rationalising. Occasionally, however, the grief can seem so overwhelming that it can seriously affect the capacity to function normally.

We may find that we retain vivid memories of the final moments of the bereavement, experiencing these again and again, and at the same time distance ourselves from all the good times – even though there are likely to be far more of these good memories.

Using NLP, EMDR and hypnotherapy, it is possible to reverse this process – allowing the good memories to be experienced again together with the feelings that went with them, and making the more recent, bereavement related memories less vivid and more bearable.

In this way, it can be appreciated how much that person, job, or pet has contributed to our lives and how they continue to live on in us – nurturing and guiding us as we move into the future.

© 2018  Richard Morley